One of the lessons that we have learned throughout this new season of life is how important self-care is. Doing for others is vital to a well-functioning society and a thriving community, but what happens when you run out of steam? Whether you live alone or with others, whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, whether you’re into glamor or the basics, taking care of yourself is the only way that you can keep yourself fit for taking care of others.


            So how can you start prioritizing self-care and what does it even mean to take care of yourself? The first step is to understand what you need to feel energized and fulfilled. Just as each person is different, so is each person’s preferences! Some people love being around others and feel energized after spending time with friends. Others need time alone to feel recharged. This is just one example of how different people enjoy different things, so spend a few moments determining what makes you happy, what recharges your batteries, and what makes you feel like you can take on the world. Once you’ve done this, move on to step two!


            Step two is putting your plan into action. This basically means prioritizing yourself enough to make what recharges your batteries happen. Some self-care routines are more challenging to pull off than others, but the foundation of prioritization is key.


            Typically, the scale of what you need is the most binding factor. For example, if all you need to feel revamped is a glass of wine and half an hour to watch an episode of your show, that will be a much easier feat to accomplish than a weekend away with your spouse or significant other. They can all be accomplished with the proper planning and execution, though. Here are some tips to help you put your plan into motion.


  1. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Just as you love to help others, others will love to help you. Find a babysitter if you have kids. Ask your significant other to cook dinner. Plan to have a day off from the office. Ask someone to cover your shift. You will be surprised by how willing people are to lend a hand!
  2. Planning is key. Although people love to help, they can’t just drop everything for you at a moment’s notice (usually). If your need is somewhat more involved, plan ahead for those days off, ask your childcare to mark those days specifically for you, etc. Getting things together now will save you a lot of headache in the long run!


The last step to self-care is following through and relaxing. Sometimes things happen that derail plans, but don’t let yourself be one of those derailing things! Try not to come up with reasons to deprioritize what you need, and once you’re there, don’t ruin it for yourself! Focus on recharging your batteries so that you can help others when they need to recharge theirs. Happy self-caring!